The art of letting go!

It has been yet another hibernation period for me and well, I am back! What was I doing for almost an entire year you ask, well I was learning! Many things actually but more so, the art of letting go!

So picking up from where I left, 2018 was a rather difficult year for me where I lost something beyond myself, I lost faith, I fought and questioned the supreme power and felt really lost. All my life, I have wanted to play this one role and 2018 took it away from me and I felt the dent was permanent.

2019 began with yet another series of disappointments and failures but with something else, something new – the strength to bounce back, the strength that I always had but had forgotten over the trauma that 2018 left me with.

I subscribe to Sadguru, Gaur Gopaldasji and Khalid via social media and while I may not agree with everything they say in to-to, I realized that the crux of being happier was in letting go. Well how do you let go? Do you simply forget?

Imagine a mother who lost her child, will she ever forget her or imagine a young girl who was detected with diabetes at 28 or imagine a man who lost his mother at a point when he was about to make  things better for her financially. Can these hurts go away, ever? Well no! The scars will remain, will it hurt any less? No, it won’t! Silent tears will still roll down at the site of that sonogram picture in her phone or the birthday cake she was unable to or empty chair on the new dining table this man got from his newly booming income.

Letting go to me is about letting the anger subside. The anger could be directed towards someone or may just be an aimless arrow looking for a target. Letting go is about making peace with the fact that you did what you could and god did what he could but something’s were not meant to be.

What letting go helps you with is to accept the better things in life. It helps you bounce back. After all what is life, it is  that vast landscape of mountains and valleys that we scale up and down since the day we were born to the day we die and maybe even beyond.

I learnt over this year that the moment I let go of my desperation to claim what I lost, I got something new, something so beautiful that I will cherish it and be grateful for ever! At no point can one thing replace the other but the lesson here is the thing that you have was always yours and the thing that you lost was meant to go.

I learnt the art of looking at what I lost with more love and remember the time I had with it instead of the horrible moment I realized its loss. I chose to let go of my anger towards the almighty. It did not happen on day one or not even on day 100, it happened gradually.

If you know someone dealing with loss or depression or something you find off, don’t ask them to cheer up coz never in the history of mankind could any one cheer up by saying cheese! Give them time; be with them, you may not be able to feel what they feel. Advice only when asked for. Sometimes the feeling of not being alone does more magic than a constant reminder to be strong.

I end my post with an open invitation for anyone and everyone to ping me and talk about any of your scary moments, if you are finding it difficult to let go, I have more than one examples how it could help you progress and well, if you are looking only for ears and no mouth, I am in for being your audience for an hour long monologue as well, this year has also blessed me with some additional patience since I am going to need it in abundance over the next 20 years or so!

Happy new year, well in advance (since by now you know, I next post may come tomorrow or in the next decade)